Overcoming shyness.....

Started by NM_Shooter, October 18, 2011, 09:28:15 PM

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NM_Shooter

Proud of my kid for overcoming a fear today. She has always loved little old ladies, and today I encouraged her to go up to one at a table at a restaurant to say hi. She was terrified but went up anyway, told the 96 year old woman that she looked nice, and wanted to say hello. The entire restaurant was lit up by the smile on that lady's face.

Sarah came bouncing out of the restaurant looking like Sue Heck on "The Middle" :-)
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MountainDon

That's very  [cool]

I can appreciate what it took to do that.
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glenn kangiser

:)

Nice move there, Sarah.  You never know what there is to learn from someone if you never try to talk to them. 
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Redoverfarm

Good Job Frank.  I started years ago of having my son to thank people for what they have done for him and now it is just second nature.  I guess he was about 8-10 when he started selling livestock associated with 4H.   It was a little difficult the first couple of times but now he knows what is expected.  My daughter sold her first pig this year and did the same to the buyer.  That means alot to the buyer and gives the kids more confidence.

peternap

That's great Frank. You get an A+ in parenting!

I think most of us were brought up that way. Unfortunately, many new parents forgot to teach their children.

As mean as people think I am and as old as I am, I still say sir and mam and hold doors open for ladies, remove my hat at the appropriate time and keep my elbows off the table. Those were things that were drilled into me from as early as I can remember and I'll never lose them.

If every parent followed your example....I could stop muttering "Damn Kids" throughout the day. ::)
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fishing_guy

Quote from: peternap on October 19, 2011, 06:25:20 AM
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As mean as people think I am and as old as I am, I still say sir and mam and hold doors open for ladies, remove my hat at the appropriate time and keep my elbows off the table. Those were things that were drilled into me from as early as I can remember and I'll never lose them.

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Peter,
I too hold the doors open for the ladies.  Always have.  Was at one restaurant and there were 3 older(70's+) couples and a single lady coming out.  As I was holding the door for them, the single lady turned to me and said, "Thank you, but you didn't have to do that."  I replied, "Mam, as long as beautiful women keep coming through that door, I'll keep holding it..."
I wasn't sure if I was going to get a slap or a smile...
Congrats Frank.  You're raising them the right way.
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OlJarhead

Very awesome :)

I've always tried to teach my children to respect others and to always be polite and they've seen me many times thank veterans and welcome them home so to them, it's both normal and proper behavior to do the same.

I too hold the door for ladies and open the door to the car for my wife (until we got our new truck with only one lock (drivers side) and no remote -- I have to unlock her door from the inside of the drivers door)....it was funny when we first started dating as she didn't know how to approach a door to allow me to open it and often got in the way...hard to explain for those who don't do this but it can be somewhat amusing....she didn't take long to learn though ;)

Another thing that surprises me is how many men don't buy their ladies roses or flowers in general.  My wife never had flowers given to her and claimed "I don't like them really"....years later she admitted (because I refused to accept that nonsense and got them anyway to show my appreciation for her in a special way on occasion) that she used to say that as a defense mechanism because no one bought her flowers and that now she feels quite differently.

Anyway, good on you and your daughter!

rick91351

For a young person to learn holding a door, or saying thank you.  That is priceless in life.  Goes very far with self and others.
 
Giving a complement, flashing a smile, a nod or a wave, open many doors for you yourself no matter how old.  Oh not promotion and acclamation but you walk away feeling good about yourself and the other person as well.  Feel down, just say Hi! to others and give a complement.  Work wonders!  Something grandpa and grandma knew was passed along yet sort of swept away. 

In LIFE actually you have control!  Lift some one up.  Teach your kids that and they will go far.  Yet often times we need to follow suit.  To busy to be nice?  How long does it take to notice the clerk at the check out.  Her hair, piece of jewelry, she actually took time to count out change rather toss a wad in your hand.  Say something good about it.  It lifts you both up.  Last evening Texas Roadhouse we were walking to the car and the bus boy came running out and handed me my keys.  I thanked him and kidded him that he most likely saved us hours.  We would have stood in the parking lot most likely until dark trying to figure out if we had our car keys when we drove in. or not?  So thanks bunch!  You saved me a couple hours and made my day.  We all had a good laugh.  Or I could just been a grouch and took the keys.  Maybe mumbled Thanks....         
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Homegrown Tomatoes

:) Good for her!  I have one shy one, too, and getting her to warm up to people is kind of hard sometimes.  We started simple: please and thank-you, looking people in the eyes, stuff like that.  I even used a "manners" curriculum as part of homeschool because I don't think that shyness should be an excuse for rudeness.  My second daughter sometimes won't answer people who ask her questions or won't look at them.... we're slowly getting her out of that.